Not A Typical Teenager: November 2014

Wednesday, 26 November 2014


I attend my local orchestra every week, and I really enjoy being able to play music with other musicians in my local area. It's a fantastic experience and I would never give it up.
However, in areas near by, free music lessons are being abolished to save the governments money. Well, this is not the way to do it.

I have free violin lessons in school and am currently at a grade 5 standard due to the fact that my teacher was ill all of the time, through no fault of her own, and was in for roughly 5 lessons over a 2 year period, but still that doesn't matter to me. The fact that I can play an instrument is fantastic and I wouldn't trade it for the world.

However, nobody likes practising scales in their room on their own. As a musician, I like to play music with others. To make music with others. It changes how you feel about all types of music (I know that sounds really really snobby but it's true). It is just fantastic, and it is a way to make new friends.

If they stop free music lessons in the one area and it saves the government money, they will do it in other places and before long, there will be no-one to play the classical orchestra instruments like violins, trumpets etc. And it will be the government complaining in 15 years time that there is no-one doing GCSE music who plays these instruments, and it will be their fault.

And once the lessons go, they will never come back.

Stay un-typical

Ashleigh xxx

Thursday, 20 November 2014

Losing A Friend

When we are younger, we are bombarded by the media with programmes on Disney Channel and Nickelodeon with stories about best friends who have been friends for years and how they deal with life stresses like school family and boys (this is me relating to programmes I watched like Hannah Montana, iCarly etc. which mainly involve teenage girls as main characters).

These programmes all look at how they deal with dating boys and talking to their crushes, and the break ups. How there is usually a sob fest which involves films like The Notebook and tonnes of cookie dough ice cream when a break-up occurs. Most importantly they show the best friend is there for them to help them through it. You never see a break-up between friends. So how do you deal with it?

Recently, I have began to drift from one of my closest friends. We have been best friends for years and I have stuck with her like she has stuck with me through all of the difficulties in life (or as many as there upto the age of 15), but since we have started to drift I don't really know what to do about it. The person I would usually talk to about all of this is the person I am drifting from, and I am really struggling.

I guess what makes it worse than anything else is seeing that she doesn't need me anymore. She is perfectly happy with her new 'best friend' and I really don't know what I am supposed to do when I see her happy with her. There was no massive arguement between us. Nothing really dramatic happened, we just drifted. She now walks home with this other girl and doesn't really come out with us anymore. It's really weird. I miss her.

I just want things to go back to the way the were before we drifted. When she could tell me anything rather than going to her new best friend with her problems. She doesn't tell me any of them anymore. We have found different friends and that's all that has happened. Maybe I should be watching The Notebook and eating cookie dough ice cream for this break up too, because it hurts 10x more than any other break up.

Stay Un-Typical

Ashleigh xxx

Monday, 17 November 2014

Anti-Bullying Week 2014 - Bystanding

So every year an anti-bullying week takes place in November time ish, and every year in school we have an assembly on it. Today was the assembly for Anti-Bullying Week 2014 in my school. Now before I start, I just want to say that I do not think bullying is right by any stretch of the imagination but here is what I have an issue with.

The assembly started in the same way as always, "you should not bully" and the teacher talked about all of the different forms of bullying eg verbal, physical, cyber etc. and told us what to do if we saw someone being bullied. That is not where the issue lies. Here it is:

He then said that if you stand back and watch someone being bullied then you're a bully yourself and you are just as evil. Now I agree with this statement to an extent as if there is someone being called horrible things and is clearly being bullied then someone should intervene, but it's not always that clear. defines bullying as:
An unhappy teen boy walks away from bullying girls. "unwanted, aggressive behavior among school aged children that involves a real or perceived power imbalance. The behavior is repeated, or has the potential to be repeated, over time. Both kids who are bullied and who bully others may have serious, lasting problems."
To me, this says that bullying is always aggressive. But I think bullying is a little bit more complicated than that.
Bullying is difficult to define because different people react to things in different ways and see things in different lights. Someone sensitive might see a mild comment as bullying, whereas someone who is less sensitive might see it as playful conversation
All in all, I think its wrong to say that the bystander is as responsible, because people have different tolerance levels. What do you think? Let me know on twitter @_Not_typical_

Stay Un-typical
Ashleigh xxx