Not A Typical Teenager: February 2015

Monday, 23 February 2015

"Just a teenager"

I'm fed up of hearing the phrase "just a teenager." I don't think people realize how offensive this term can be. When talking about different things we are often told that we won't understand because we are "just teenagers."

However, I think the worst case of this can be when we teenagers go to adults with our problems. Now, obviously adults have their own issues like mortgages; credit cards; putting food on their children's plates etc, but that doesn't mean that they can't put in time to listen to our problems. Or if they ask about how our days were, at least look like they care or have an interest in what we are talking about.

There have actually been studies on this kind of thing which say that if a 6-year-old comes to you with a problem and you dismiss it, they are less likely to come to you with issues as they get older because you'll have ignored their problems first of all. However, if you listen, they'll come to you again in the future.

This is why teenagers tend to talk to other teens about their problems, or just keep them to themselves, because it's easier than being laughed at.

Stay Un-Typical

Ashleigh xxx


Sunday, 22 February 2015

Money

Being a teenager can be very difficult for numerous different reasons. One of which being that, as a teenager, we have lots and lots of time, but not enough money. I know that I get plenty of money. I get given £10 a week pocket money and then a bonus if I do well in school. Lots of  my friends get paid monthly. One of my friends gets £80 a month. A lot of money at this age. One of my friends only get £5 a week.

It's difficult if you have a lot of friends who go out a lot on the weekends or in the holidays and enjoy doing costly activities. Summer is possibly the worst. We get 6 weeks off, and we are out almost everyday spending money. I'm quite luck because my birthday is right before the summer holidays at the end of June. This means I have lots of money to spend over the holidays.

None of my friends have this luxury, as they many of them have birthdays in the winter months and have spent all of their birthday money by the summer, which means they have just their pocket money to spend on all of these activities.

So why don't we get jobs you ask? Well, I am the youngest of my group of friends which means most of my friends are old enough to get jobs and all have their national insurance numbers, but with all the exams on at the minute, none of us really have time to take on a job. We are all doing extra qualifications and extra GCSE's which means it's just not possible to have the time to work for our money.

The only solution to this really is for us to get jobs after all of our exams are over and work through the summer. This is beneficial in 2 ways: we'll all be earning money which means we'll have more to spend; and also, because we'll be working, we'll have less time to spend it, so we'll save more.

I guess we'll just have to cope.

Stay Un-Typical

Ashleigh xxx

Saturday, 21 February 2015

braces_and_glasses

So, for those of you who follow my youtube I know that I haven't posted at all recently. That's because my glasses have broken and that makes it just braces, maybe I'll do one without my glasses, but once I have new glasses I will hopefully start back to normal.

Stay Un-Typical

Ashleigh xxx

Wednesday, 18 February 2015

Dismissing Teenage Relationships

So I did do a post on this recently called the "dismissal of everything", which wad talking about how people don't take teenage love seriously.

Well, since then, I have done some contemplation on this and spoken to a few of my friends about this particular topic and I think I have come to a conclusion as to why.

Teenagers are usually seen by older generations as reckless. As people who will do things without thinking about the consequences of their actions. I think this is true. I think teenagers are more willing to give themselves to something. To give their whole selves to something. I think adults are more cautious to throwing themselves into things and letting themselves fall for someone because they may have experienced heartbreak before. For A teenager who has never experienced heartbreak, it is very easy to fall for someone without having to feel scared of what could happen. Adults need to try and take these things seriously even if they dont think they are serious because otherwise the teen isn't going to speak them in fear of being laughed at or told to brush it off.

Even if all the right things are being said, the body language has to be right to, otherwise you can see right through it.

More than anything, I think if things eventually go wrong, adults need to treat it like a real issue, becauseto the teen it could be the biggest issue they have; and the last thing they need to hear is the 'I told you so'. They need support and comfort food and to talk to someone. Check out my all about me page if you want to discuss anything mentioned here.

Stay Un-Typical

Ashleigh xxx

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Friday, 13 February 2015

The Science Behind Music

Music is a massive part of my life (as you would have seen from my previous posts), and I take my music very seriously. I love making music and I like to listen to a lot of music, (although I am not a music snob). There have been studies to show that music is good for us in lots of different ways. It's pretty amazing.

- It has been shown that our music choices can predict our personalities
So I have posted about stereotyping before and said how you shouldn't judge what people are like by the music they listen to or the clothes that they wear. But, it turns out that we can predict what someone will be like just by the music they listen to.

This must be taken with a pinch of salt, as it was tested on a group of young adults. But it was quite successful.

-Learning a musical instrument makes it easier to pick up a second language
It improves the way that the mind breaks down the English language, and so it makes it eaier to pick up a second one.

Stay Un-Typical

Ashleigh xxx

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