Sunday, 30 August 2015
Me, my boyfriend and another one of my best friends were walking around talking about this and we came to this conclusion;
Chances are that you are romantically compatible with more than one person on this earth (although there will be varying degrees of compatibility). Now, there is a total of 7.2 billion people on this earth (roughly), and the average person is probably compatible with 50 million of them. (please do not take these statistics as fact, we were just looking at possibilities). This means that the average person would be compatible with 1 in every 144 people they meet.
However, there will be language barriers. only about 2 billion people speak English as a first or second language, so if we take that figure into account, it means that only 27.8% of the original 50 million you would really have a chance with, as unless you are willing to learn more languages, that would be the number of people you could communicate with verbally.
That takes the figure of 50 million down to 13.9 million. This sounds like a lot of people but it means that only 1 out of every 518 people is someone you are romantically compatible with. This, again, doesn't sound too bad, but you have to get to know someone before you can find out if you work together, and this takes time, and we don't all have the time to get to know 518 people to the point where we can make a full decision.
So do soul mates exist? I don't know, but what do you think? Do you think there is one perfect person for everyone? Or do you think there are more? What do you think of the statistics I have fabricated (although they seem pretty realistic to me)? Have you found your soul mate? Let me know in the comments
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Tuesday, 25 August 2015
You. Are. Worth. It.
I know that this is hard for you to see now, but you are worth it. You are about to make some amazing friends who you will have so many adventures with. People who will appreciate you being around; people who even miss you when you aren't. You will help people out of the deepest holes. Next summer will be your best so far.
You haven't even thought about blogging or writing music at this point have you? You think that orchestra is the only thing that you can do musically? You think that you'll always have those vile abominations that give you a funny jaw line? You think that the boy you 'like' at the minute is worth it?
The next 3 years of your life will be the best. You will realize that you cannot be beautiful to everyone; but that doesn't mean that you aren't beautiful; because you are. There is someone who tells you that everyday. You have some fantastic friends who don't just tolerate you; they like you!
Your parents will remain incredibly supportive and believe it or not, Dad doesn't threaten to kill your boyfriend. However, he will pay you generously for your kick ass exam results.
You will spend so much of your time and money in Costa, but you will have some of the best memories there. You'll get a boyfriend! I know, crazy. You are happy without him, but that doesn't mean that he doesn't make you happy.
Some things will never change though, so just remember to cherish the girl who put a scalpel in your leg; because even though you will make some fantastic friends who you wouldn't change for the world, she was there first. Before any of the others, she was there. Keep her close.
Love you lots,
Monday, 24 August 2015
Having had my own experiences with mental health problems, I wanted to write a sort of open letter to others without trying to encompass all experiences. I wanted to write things that I was either told by dear friends and family, helpful professionals or simply things that I now know that I so desperately needed to hear at the time, so here it is:
The strength that you possess, you should be so proud of.
Many people in your life will be trying to label you, trying to identify you as “ a ____ person” rather than “someone living with ____”. These problems don’t define you though. It is really important for you to recognise that the latter still places the emphasis on YOU. The beautiful, kind person that so many people are thrilled to say they know. Not the problem currently sitting on your back, trying to convince you that that’s all you are now. You are so much more, you always have been and you always will be.
Ultimately, these problems are yours and yours alone and although that is intimidating, it can also be reassuring to know that no-one else can take them on or tell you what’s best for you to do with them. Only you will be able to find a way to handle them and if you can’t beat them straight away then that’s okay too. It shows amazing strength to face difficulty every day.
The problems are yours, but this isn’t to say that the people who want to help, to listen and to support you should be pushed away. It can often seem like the best thing to do, especially when it feels like you are a burden to them. I need to tell you now that you aren’t. Truly caring about someone means standing by them through the most difficult times. Truly caring about someone is for who they are, not what they are living with.
Although it doesn’t feel like it, there is a point in the future where things feel better. I’m not going to echo the saccharine sentiment that “things GET better” because there isn’t always a fix for some people but I want to stress that things can FEEL better. There are people just like you who love, live and achieve their dreams and many have done it still not ‘in recovery’.
Don’t ever let anyone make you feel like your way of coping isn’t good enough and always praise yourself for what you do.
You are brave, you are loved and things can feel better.
I blog over at princessparasox, where you’ll find all of my social media accounts, or you can contact me privately anytime with an email to firstname.lastname@example.org.
If you would like support, check out this site: http://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/
Monday, 17 August 2015
I am a GCSE pupil, who is receiving her results this Thursday and will be starting year 12 in September.
This August, I have heard so much from A Level students about how difficult next year is going to be. About how my options are going to be difficult and I'm going to cry a lot due to the amount of stress I am under
I get that if you have had a difficult experience that you may want to share this and advise against me doing these A Levels. I get that.
What I don't get is why you are belittling my results for GCSE. There have been numerous tweets on Twitter saying "GCSE students worrying about their results when you can get a B with no revision." All of these kinds of tweets come from the people who have done their A Levels. I understand that they are more difficult, but please stop belittling what I am going through to make yourself feel better about failing your A Levels.
Wednesday, 12 August 2015
I told all of you that I went to a festival, and I don't know what has happened to me during that time but since I have come back I have been feeling particularly creative. I have feel like I have been motivated again. I want to write more music and do more blog posts (good thing it's blogust :-)).
There does have to come a point where I actually use this creativity. I wrote a song this evening aswell as this post about being creative. I guess what I am trying to say is when you feel motivated to do something, don't leave it hang around. Don't wait or leave acting upon your creative mood, because you never know when it will disappear again.
Thereis a massive difference between dreamers and doers. If you are a dreamer, then you can become a doer, but it's a lot more difficult to go the other way about things. Many people say they will do something and then never get around to it because why should you bother? It's not because people are lazy (although that can play a part in it), it is usually because people lose their motivation. Just please use your motivation wisely.
- Ashleigh xxx
Tuesday, 11 August 2015
Food gets stuck in them - a lot
If I have learnt anything from having braces, it would be don't eat bread when you are no where near a toothbrush or water to sloosh around in your mouth and always carry a toothpick (or a bobby pin in emergencies).
Having them tightened hurts
Try your best not to have an appointment at the orthodontist less than 4 days before an event you will be eating at, because if you do, you'll be eating soup.
The wax is useless
So when you first have 'train tracks' you will be given this wax that is made out of vegetable oil (I think), just in case the braces start to rub the inside of your mouth, and they will. The thing about this wax is that you can only apply it to dry places, which is unbelievably stupid because your mouth is wet. When you eventually manage to get it on your teeth, it will last at most an hour, and it comes off when you eat.
These are 3 of the issues I have had. Have you had braces? Have you got any issues to add?
Monday, 10 August 2015
I even got to go on stage myself. I did covers of pompeii and with or without you. It was a fantastic experience and I would love to go again.
If I could give anyone any tips it would be take toilet roll and nose plugs; the toilets aren't pleasant.
Friday, 7 August 2015
YouTube is a massive part of culture nowadays generally, but there is a culture with in YouTube which has been under speculation recently both by viewers and you tubers themselves.
The way that YouTube has changed over the last few years has been massive. Some you tubers are practically celebrities. There has been talk about the length of cues at meet and greets, and how younger viewers look up to you tubers.
Everyone who has a YouTube channel does not show everything. What we see is a glossy version of someone's life. The thing with YouTube is that viewers feel that they are more relatable than mainstream "celebrities".
You tubers have a chance to do a fantastic thing, I just hope that they use what they have wisely.
What do you think about you tubers and YouTube culture?
Thursday, 6 August 2015
When social networks first became a big thing, I think youtube was definitely the one we should have picked. I say this because there are people making millions form posting videos online, whereas people who are on tumblr don't make money from tumblr.
I started a YouTube channel to promote my music and to show people what I can do, but it kind of feels like I'm just jumping on the band wagon. Doing something that everyone else is doing. I think that because a few people have done incredibly well, a lot of people think they can have the same success, and it's just not the case.
I feel that blogging is so much easier for me personally. When you create a video, a lot of editing has to happen and uploads take forever, whereas with blogging the words just seem to flow out of me. An idea is enough for a good blog post.
Plus, everyone in the blogging community is so nice. No one has ever said anything bad to me and all criticism is done so politely that it is more difficult to feel offended than not.
I prefer blogging because it is so much easier to connect, and I feel there is less of a hierarchy.
Wednesday, 5 August 2015
iPhone's have become more and more common over the last few years, and I would say that they are now the most popular phone you can buy. It has a good layout and are all incredible phones. The app store is easy to work and the internet connection on them is really good. The reason I haven't converted to iPhone is because the battery life in them seems to decrease a lot more rapidly than that of the Samsung. iMessage is a fantastic idea. The emoji's are also really cool
The app store on Samsung I find is a bit more difficult to use, although I find that there are more apps on the Samsung. I also like that you can still Bluetooth music from phone to phone with ease. You can use Bluetooth from Samsung to any other phone apart from the iPhone's. There are now emoji's on the newer Samsung's, but iPhone did have them first.
The issues I take with both of these companies is that the advancements of the phones between 5 and 6 is minimal. They are just more expensive with no real leap in technology. All we can do is hope for more in the future.
What are your opinions? Do you prefer iPhone or Samsung? Why?
Tuesday, 4 August 2015
Monday, 3 August 2015
1) Buy a decent instrument.
Don't bother buying a £10 uke, or guitar. If you really want to learn, your going to have to splash out a little. For example, my uke (a tanglewood that you can buy here) cost me £50, but I got a lot for my money. (To read my review of my uke, click here).
2) Make a habit of practising.
Making practise a habit means that it won't feel like a chore, eventually. The first few weeks are the hardest as the habit takes some time to develop, but just stick at it.
3) Look into the possibility if lessons
Okay, so maybe you don't want to pay for lessons because you have made the assumption that they will be expensive, but just look into it. Sometimes lessons can be reasonably cheap. Don't only look with private tutors. Some music shops will offer lessons for an incredibly reasonable price.
4) Pick something that you want to learn to play
This will really help as it will give you a goal. If you start to learn piano but don't really have a goal piece, chances are that you won't stick at it. If you pick, say, fur elise, you may be more likely to keep playing until you can play that piece.
5) Pick decent songs to learn the instrument
I think a lot of the time the biggest issues with someone who wants to play an instrument is that they think it will be ages until they can play anything of substance. However, in music, lots of songs use only 4 chords. This means that with 4 chords, you'll be able to play some pretty decent stuff.
These are my tips. Give it a try and let me know how it goes in the comments
Sunday, 2 August 2015
Saturday, 1 August 2015
1) Don't let the numbers get you down
It's very easy as a blogger at the beginning to just give up because no-one really reads your blog, and even if they are, you don't think there are very many of them. You need to remember that blogs with a large viewership take a long time to build up. You need to accept that you are going to have to work hard if you want to build up an audience
2) Make blogging a habit
Post however often you want, but try to post reasonably often so that you maintain a steady readership. I posted everyday when I first began blogging, but then after a while I kind of lost steam and blogged less often. This is okay, just give your readers a little warning if your gong to take a break, otherwise they will check your blog as often as usual and won't find any new content. They will eventually stop coming to your page. Let them know roughly when you will blog again if you do decide to take a break that is longer than your usual interval.
3) Write about what you're passionate about
Don't write about what you think your readers will want to read. Write about the things that you want to write about and eventually you will find a following of people who want to read what you want to write about.
4) Start a few social media pages
In all honesty, the only social media platform I use to promote my blog because it is the easiest to use. I didn't open up a Facebook page because the only people you can really promote that to is friend, and not just anyone, whereas twitter, you can promote your blog to anyone.
5) Enjoy it!
When it starts to become a chore, you know that you either need to take a break, or write about something your passionate about, regardless of your view count.
6) Connect with other bloggers
Try to talk to other bloggers in the comments of their blogs, on twitter, etc. Make sure to try to expand your audience, and the best way to do this is by connecting.
Hope this helps all you beginner blogs, and please keep writing. There is always going to be someone out there who wants to hear what you have to say.