Not A Typical Teenager: August 2015

Sunday, 30 August 2015

Are Soul Mates Real?

A soul mate is the idea that there is one perfect person in this world for everyone, and that we spend our lives trying to find them.

Me, my boyfriend and another one of my best friends were walking around talking about this and we came to this conclusion;

Chances are that you are romantically compatible with more than one person on this earth (although there will be varying degrees of compatibility). Now, there is a total of 7.2 billion people on this earth (roughly), and the average person is probably compatible with 50 million of them. (please do not take these statistics as fact, we were just looking at possibilities). This means that the average person would be compatible with 1 in every 144 people they meet.

However, there will be language barriers. only about 2 billion people speak English as a first or second language, so if we take that figure into account, it means that only 27.8% of the original 50 million you would really have a chance with, as unless you are willing to learn more languages, that would be the number of people you could communicate with verbally.

That takes the figure of 50 million down to 13.9 million. This sounds like a lot of people but it means that only 1 out of every 518 people is someone you are romantically compatible with. This, again, doesn't sound too bad, but you have to get to know someone before you can find out if you work together, and this takes time, and we don't all have the time to get to know 518 people to the point where we can make a full decision.

So do soul mates exist? I don't know, but what do you think? Do you think there is one perfect person for everyone? Or do you think there are more? What do you think of the statistics I have fabricated (although they seem pretty realistic to me)? Have you found your soul mate? Let me know in the comments

Stay Un-Typical

Ashleigh xxx

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Tuesday, 25 August 2015

Dear Me

This post is for me, and what I would tell myself if I could back 3 years ago. Just a general rambling in all honesty. But read on if you want some possible motivation.

You. Are. Worth. It.

I know that this is hard for you to see now, but you are worth it. You are about to make some amazing friends who you will have so many adventures with. People who will appreciate you being around; people who even miss you when you aren't. You will help people out of the deepest holes. Next summer will be your best so far.

You haven't even thought about blogging or writing music at this point have you? You think that orchestra is the only thing that you can do musically? You think that you'll always have those vile abominations that give you a funny jaw line? You think that the boy you 'like' at the minute is worth it?

The next 3 years of your life will be the best. You will realize that you cannot be beautiful to everyone; but that doesn't mean that you aren't beautiful; because you are. There is someone who tells you that everyday. You have some fantastic friends who don't just tolerate you; they like you!

Your parents will remain incredibly supportive and believe it or not, Dad doesn't threaten to kill your boyfriend. However, he will pay you generously for your kick ass exam results.

You will spend so much of your time and money in Costa, but you will have some of the best memories there. You'll get a boyfriend! I know, crazy. You are happy without him, but that doesn't mean that he doesn't make you happy.

Some things will never change though, so just remember to cherish the girl who put a scalpel in your leg; because even though you will make some fantastic friends who you wouldn't change for the world, she was there first. Before any of the others, she was there. Keep her close.

Love you lots,

Ashleigh xxx

Monday, 24 August 2015

Guest Post By Jenna Lloyd

Mental health problems are more and more prevalent in today’s society and chances are that if you’re reading this, you either know someone or you are someone who is fighting the battle everyday. So often, people who are living with mental health problems and even those supporting someone doing so can find it difficult to speak out about their experiences, partly because of the stigma that still surrounds mental health but also because there are often so many different emotions involved for each individual.

Having had my own experiences with mental health problems, I wanted to write a sort of open letter to others without trying to encompass all experiences. I wanted to write things that I was either told by dear friends and family, helpful professionals or simply things that I now know that I so desperately needed to hear at the time, so here it is:

To you,

The strength that you possess, you should be so proud of.

Many people in your life will be trying to label you, trying to identify you as “ a ____ person” rather than “someone living with ____”. These problems don’t define you though. It is really important for you to recognise that the latter still places the emphasis on YOU. The beautiful, kind person that so many people are thrilled to say they know. Not the problem currently sitting on your back, trying to convince you that that’s all you are now. You are so much more, you always have been and you always will be.

Ultimately, these problems are yours and yours alone and although that is intimidating, it can also be reassuring to know that no-one else can take them on or tell you what’s best for you to do with them. Only you will be able to find a way to handle them and if you can’t beat them straight away then that’s okay too. It shows amazing strength to face difficulty every day.

The problems are yours, but this isn’t to say that the people who want to help, to listen and to support you should be pushed away. It can often seem like the best thing to do, especially when it feels like you are a burden to them. I need to tell you now that you aren’t. Truly caring about someone means standing by them through the most difficult times. Truly caring about someone is for who they are, not what they are living with.

Although it doesn’t feel like it, there is a point in the future where things feel better. I’m not going to echo the saccharine sentiment that “things GET better” because there isn’t always a fix for some people but I want to stress that things can FEEL better. There are people just like you who love, live and achieve their dreams and many have done it still not ‘in recovery’.

Don’t ever let anyone make you feel like your way of coping isn’t good enough and always praise yourself for what you do.

You are brave, you are loved and things can feel better.

From me.”  

I blog over at princessparasox, where you’ll find all of my social media accounts, or you can contact me privately anytime with an email to jennalouiselloyd27@gmail.com.


If you would like support, check out this site: http://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/

Monday, 17 August 2015

Dear A Level Student

I am a GCSE pupil, who is receiving her results this Thursday and will be starting year 12 in September.

This August, I have heard so much from A Level students about how difficult next year is going to be. About how my options are going to be difficult and I'm going to cry a lot due to the amount of stress I am under

I get that if you have had a difficult experience that you may want to share this and advise against me doing these A Levels. I get that.

What I don't get is why you are belittling my results for GCSE. There have been numerous tweets on Twitter saying "GCSE students worrying about their results when you can get a B with no revision." All of these kinds of tweets come from the people who have done their A Levels. I understand that they are more difficult, but please stop belittling what I am going through to make yourself feel better about failing your A Levels.

Stay Un-typical

Ashleigh xxx

Wednesday, 12 August 2015

Feeling Creative

So this post was done on a Monday night, but I have no idea when it will actually be posted, this is just because I am feeling particularly type-y this evening.

I told all of you that I went to a festival, and I don't know what has happened to me during that time but since I have come back I have been feeling particularly creative. I have feel like I have been motivated again. I want to write more music and do more blog posts (good thing it's blogust :-)).

There does have to come a point where I actually use this creativity. I wrote a song this evening aswell as this post about being creative. I guess what I am trying to say is when you feel motivated to do something, don't leave it hang around. Don't wait or leave acting upon your creative mood, because you never know when it will disappear again.

Thereis a massive difference between dreamers and doers. If you are a dreamer, then you can become a doer, but it's a lot more difficult to go the other way about things. Many people say they will do something and then never get around to it because why should you bother? It's not because people are lazy (although that can play a part in it), it is usually because people lose their motivation. Just please use your motivation wisely.

Stay Un-Typical


  • Ashleigh xxx

Tuesday, 11 August 2015

3 Issues of Braces

I have had braces for just under 4 years now, and I have to admit that they aren't all that bad NOW. (To hear about my whole experience so far, click here).Since I have had them, I have learned how to deal with them, so here are a few struggles you can expect:

Food gets stuck in them - a lot
If I have learnt anything from having braces, it would be don't eat bread when you are no where near a toothbrush or water to sloosh around in your mouth and always carry a toothpick (or a bobby pin in emergencies).

Having them tightened hurts
Try your best not to have an appointment at the orthodontist less than 4 days before an event you will be eating at, because if you do, you'll be eating soup.

The wax is useless
So when you first have 'train tracks' you will be given this wax that is made out of vegetable oil (I think), just in case the braces start to rub the inside of your mouth, and they will. The thing about this wax is that you can only apply it to dry places, which is unbelievably stupid because your mouth is wet. When you eventually manage to get it on your teeth, it will last at most an hour, and it comes off when you eat.

These are 3 of the issues I have had. Have you had braces? Have you got any issues to add?

Stay Un-Typical

Ashleigh xxx

Monday, 10 August 2015

Festivals

I would like to start this blog post by apologising for not posting for the last 3 days. I attended a festival at which my phone was refusing to let me type within my blog.

Festivals are fantastic, that is what I learnt this weekend. It was really cool to go somewhere and camp with all of my friends and then watch and listen to some live music.

I even got to go on stage myself. I did covers of pompeii and with or without you. It was a fantastic experience and I would love to go again.

If I could give anyone any tips it would be take toilet roll and nose plugs; the toilets aren't pleasant.

Stay Un-Typical

Ashleigh xxx

Friday, 7 August 2015

Youtube Culture

YouTube is a massive part of culture nowadays generally, but there is a culture with in YouTube which has been under speculation recently both by viewers and you tubers themselves.

The way that YouTube has changed over the last few years has been massive. Some you tubers are practically celebrities. There has been talk about the length of cues at meet and greets, and how younger viewers look up to you tubers.

Everyone who has a YouTube channel does not show everything. What we see is a glossy version of someone's life. The thing with YouTube is that viewers feel that they are more relatable than mainstream "celebrities".

You tubers have a chance to do a fantastic thing, I just hope that they use what they have wisely.

What do you think about you tubers and YouTube culture?

Stay Un-typical

Ashleigh xxx

Thursday, 6 August 2015

Youtube vs Blogging

I have had a YouTube channel for about 8 months and a blog for 14. Having done a little bit of both and having read other blogs and watched other you-tubers, I have definitely picked a favourite.

When social networks first became a big thing, I think youtube was definitely the one we should have picked. I say this because there are people making millions form posting videos online, whereas people who are on tumblr don't make money from tumblr.

I started a YouTube channel to promote my music and to show people what I can do, but it kind of feels like I'm just jumping on the band wagon. Doing something that everyone else is doing. I think that because a few people have done incredibly well, a lot of people think they can have the same success, and it's just not the case.

I feel that blogging is so much easier for me personally. When you create a video, a lot of editing has to happen and uploads take forever, whereas with blogging the words just seem to flow out of me. An idea is enough for a good blog post.

Plus, everyone in the blogging community is so nice. No one has ever said anything bad to me and all criticism is done so politely that it is more difficult to feel offended than not.

I prefer blogging because it is so much easier to connect, and I feel there is less of a hierarchy.

Stay Un-Typical

Ashleigh xxx

Wednesday, 5 August 2015

Samsung or iPhone

Samsung or iPhone. iPhone or Samsung. Me and my friends have had many conversations about which is better for what you want out of a phone. I am a strong fighter for Samsung as I really love the layout, but I am going to compare the two.

iPhone
iPhone's have become more and more common over the last few years, and I would say that they are now the most popular phone you can buy. It has a good layout and are all incredible phones. The app store is easy to work and the internet connection on them is really good. The reason I haven't converted to iPhone is because the battery life in them seems to decrease a lot more rapidly than that of the Samsung. iMessage is a fantastic idea. The emoji's are also really cool

Samsung
The app store on Samsung I find is a bit more difficult to use, although I find that there are more apps on the Samsung. I also like that you can still Bluetooth music from phone to phone with ease. You can use Bluetooth from Samsung to any other phone apart from the iPhone's. There are now emoji's on the newer Samsung's, but iPhone did have them first.

The issues I take with both of these companies is that the advancements of the phones between 5 and 6 is minimal. They are just more expensive with no real leap in technology. All we can do is hope for more in the future.

What are your opinions? Do you prefer iPhone or Samsung? Why?

Stay Un-Typical

Ashleigh xxx

Tuesday, 4 August 2015

Making Tough Decisions

Decisions are something that we all have to make, whether we like it or not. I have recently been faced with such a decision, and I want to try to help anyone in a similar position. If you are trying to make a decision, here are a few tips:

Make a pros and cons lift of each option
The one that comes out the best is the one you pick. make a pro +1 and a con -1, this way you can tally up the scores and pick which option comes out on top.

Ask others for their opinion
Try to ask people who are unbiased and who won't be impacted by your decision  but still care about the choice you make. If you ask someone who is biased, they will pick the choice that will benefit them.

Set aside some time
Don't just leave it until you have to make the decision on impulse, as you may make a choice you didn't mean to make. If you have an advance to make the decision, try to do so.

Sleep on it
A good night sleep can clear your head and so when you wake up, your judgement isn't clouded.

Hope these help

Stay Un-Typical

Ashleigh xxx

Monday, 3 August 2015

5 Tips for Learning a Musical Instrument

Picking up a musical instrument was the most exciting thing going on in my life at the age of 7, and now at the age of 16, I still love picking up my violin and being able to play. Since 7, I have also picked up other instruments, like the piano, ukulele, etc. There are lots of people who sort of think about playing an instrument and 'dabble' in doing so, but very few stick at it. If you are looking to start playing an instrument, then here are some tips:

1) Buy a decent instrument.
Don't bother buying a £10 uke, or guitar. If you really want to learn, your going to have to splash out a little. For example, my uke (a tanglewood that you can buy here) cost me £50, but I got a lot for my money. (To read my review of my uke, click here).

2) Make a habit of practising.
Making practise a habit means that it won't feel like a chore, eventually. The first few weeks are the hardest as the habit takes some time to develop, but just stick at it.

3) Look into the possibility if lessons 
Okay, so maybe you don't want to pay for lessons because you have made the assumption that they will be expensive, but just look into it. Sometimes lessons can be reasonably cheap. Don't only look with private tutors. Some music shops will offer lessons for an incredibly reasonable price.

4) Pick something that you want to learn to play
This will really help as it will give you a goal. If you start to learn piano but don't really have a goal piece, chances are that you won't stick at it. If you pick, say, fur elise, you may be more likely to keep playing until you can play that piece.

5) Pick decent songs to learn the instrument
I think a lot of the time the biggest issues with someone who wants to play an instrument is that they think it will be ages until they can play anything of substance. However, in music, lots of songs use only 4 chords. This means that with 4 chords, you'll be able to play some pretty decent stuff.

These are my tips. Give it a try and let me know how it goes in the comments

Stay Un-Typical

Ashleigh xxx

Sunday, 2 August 2015

7 Top tips for creating a CV

Handing a CV in to a company is daunting regardless of what age you are, and in school's they don't really teach us how to do it any more. I had no idea what to do when I wrote my CV, but now that I have done so and handed a few in, here are a few tips has to how to write your CV:

1) Make sure you put down contact details
It is useless handing a CV into anywhere if you don't put on your contact details because you want people to get in touch, and there may be some companies who want to get in touch with you, and so it is paramount that you have contact details on your CV.

2) Make an appropriate email
When MSN was rife back in the day, we all had a Hotmail which was probably something ridiculous like "rokergirl" or "pixiechik". That's really not an email you want to present to a possible employer. Create a more appropriate email for you CV, one with your name in possibly.

3) Keep it to a page
It's easy to ramble on about yourself, but most shops get roughly 200 CV's handed in a week, and so yours really needs to stand out in the crowd. Having a short CV which gets to the point will stand out - and save on printing costs.

4) Do not overuse bullet points
The idea of bullet points is that they jump out at you, so when you use them for everything on a page, it makes them pointless. Use them for the most important things. Otherwise you can use a '-' or a paragraph (keep paragraphs to about 4 lines.

5) Tailor them to the place your going
Don't just make a basic CV and hand the same one out everywhere. If your going to a shop that sells clothes, mention that you have an interest in fashion. Little tweaks like this *may* make a difference

6) Proof read
Not just once, but until you can remember it backwards. You need to make sure that there are absolutely no spelling , punctuation or grammar mistakes whatsoever. There are so many CV's being handed into these places that one mistake will mean that you're disregarded. If you don't know whether that big word you used is being used in the right context, replace it with a word you know. It's better to be right than to be unsure.

7) Download an online template
It's pretty difficult to make a CV from scratch, so just download a basic template and personalize it. Add a little personality with your words. Don't go adding flower borders or word art, but make it your own

Hope these help, and good luck. Let me know if you have any extra tips in the comments.

Stay Un-Typical

Ashleigh xxx

Saturday, 1 August 2015

How to Blog as a Beginner

I began my blog over a year ago now, and there have been times where I thought it wasn't going to be worth it. However, over the last year, I think I have a pretty decent list of how to blog and keep going with your blog as a beginner.

1) Don't let the numbers get you down
It's very easy as a blogger at the beginning to just give up because no-one really reads your blog, and even if they are, you don't think there are very many of them. You need to remember that blogs with a large viewership take a long time to build up. You need to accept that you are going to have to work hard if you want to build up an audience

2) Make blogging a habit
Post however often you want, but try to post reasonably often so that you maintain a steady readership. I posted everyday when I first began blogging, but then after a while I kind of lost steam and blogged less often. This is okay, just give your readers a little warning if your gong to take a break, otherwise they will check your blog as often as usual and won't find any new content. They will eventually stop coming to your page. Let them know roughly when you will blog again if you do decide to take a break that is longer than your usual interval.

3) Write about what you're passionate about
Don't write about what you think your readers will want to read. Write about the things that you want to write about and eventually you will find a following of people who want to read what you want to write about.

4) Start a few social media pages
In all honesty, the only social media platform I use to promote my blog because it is the easiest to use. I didn't open up a Facebook page because the only people you can really promote that to is friend, and not just anyone, whereas twitter, you can promote your blog to anyone.

5) Enjoy it!
When it starts to become a chore, you know that you either need to take a break, or write about something your passionate about, regardless of your view count.

6) Connect with other bloggers
Try to talk to other bloggers in the comments of their blogs, on twitter, etc. Make sure to try to expand your audience, and the best way to do this is by connecting.

Hope this helps all you beginner blogs, and please keep writing. There is always going to be someone out there who wants to hear what you have to say.

Stay Un-Typical

Ashleigh xxx