Not A Typical Teenager: November 2015

Sunday, 29 November 2015

5 Top Tips for Dealing With Stress

I am a 16 year old girl doing 4 A levels, an accounting course, and extra curricular activities. I think it's needless to say I stress out a lot. I find myself breaking down into floods of tears and not knowing what to do with myself. However, over the last year, I have found out some things that can help my stressing out.

1) Do something you love 
It's important to keep some time for yourself and to use that time to do something you enjoy. For me it tends to be reading, writing, playing an instrument or meeting up with my friends. Find something that calms you down.

2) If you use social media, don't let it cause you more stress
If this is what you want to do with your spare time, then it can be okay. But I usually find if I have a spare hour and I spend the hour scrolling through my Facebook news feed, I come away feeling like I haven't really accomplished anything. If I spend an hour blogging or networking and promoting my blog on twitter I don't feel so bad. I feel like I have done something useful.

3) Try to combat what is stressing you out
What usually stresses me out these days is the thought of having to sit eight A level exams in the summer. So sometimes, the best thing I can do to combat my stress is some revision, because at least then I can say that I have done something productive towards what is stressing me out.

4) Sleep well
A bit of an obvious one really, but sleep can really help to put your mind at ease and help you to work more productively throughout the day.

5) Rant to someone
If there's anything I know, it's that sometimes all you need is a good shout about what it is that is stressing you out and a ear to listen to it. It can be surprisingly helpful. If you need someone to rant to, my inbox is always open.

Thanks for reading my top tips. If you have any to add, let me know in the comments.

Stay Un-Typical

Ashleigh xxx

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Sunday, 22 November 2015

Dreaming of Bright Lights

Basically, I didn't know what it was that I wanted to write about today, but now I know and this is going to be cool. . . . Hopefully.

I watch this youtube called dodie clark (doddleoddle, view channel here), and she is amazing, but I just listened to her new original song and I've realised something.

Dreaming is a beautiful thing. Dreaming of where you're going to go and what you're going to be is really exciting. I think about it a lot, and I know exactly what it is I want to do and today I'm going to share that.

I love music. I always have. And I love writing songs. Many of you know that I write songs but I'm going to talk about that in a little more depth.

When I was in year 2, I picked up ballet and stopped after about 3 months, maybe a little more maybe a little less. I also picked up karate and then dropped it after probably the same amount of time. Neither were something I was particularly passionate about.

When I was 9, I auditioned for violin lessons in my school, which were free. I got in and picked up the violin. To start with, I wasn't really that fussed with it, but I stuck with it to see if it grew on me. . . . And it did. I think it really hit me when I first went to orchestra and I played in the junior section where all the beginners went. During the concert, after the junior and training orchestra played, the seniors came out. They were young people who were grade 3 or over. They played live and let die and I loved it. I knew that one day, I wanted to be part of that orchestra and play music that advanced.

I carried on with violin through year 7 and 8 and then picked up piano aswell. I also started percussion lessons in school. For all the instruments I played, I only payed for my piano lessons because they didn't run in school and I was having them privately.

Now, at the age of 16, I play in the senior youth orchestra for area and I love it. I reached where I wanted to all those years ago when I was eight. I still play piano, and I still love it, I have also played ukulele for a while now. I don't have violin lessons anymore, because I have to pay for them within school now as they took free lessons away, and I don't want my parents to have to pay £120 a term for me to have lessons.

So what do I want to do? I tell most grown ups I want to be an engineer, because that sounds realistic and it makes sense because I like maths. For A level I took further maths, physics and computing. Telling people I want to be an engineer seems pratical. What I really want to do is write songs Perform songs. Be a songwriter. Surround myself with music and play music with other people. To have the feeling of euphoria I get when I play and to feel the ecstasy I do when I write a good melody every day. I want to be onstage and perform things that I have written. I want to develop musical connections with people. It was why I started my youtube. I want to write and I want to perform.

Getting there is going to be tricky and maybe it will al become just a hobby. But right now, all I want to do is write music.

What is it you want to do? Do you think what you want to do is unrealistic? Do you think what I want to do is unrealistic? Let me know in the comments below.

Stay Un-Typical

Ashleigh xxx

Sunday, 8 November 2015

Feeling Positive, Thinking Positive

This week has been a pretty good week in terms of my blog and my music. One day this week, I had my first email off of someone who reads my blog, and it was so exciting for me. It was the first time I really properly realised that people actually read my blog.

When I first started blogging, I have to admit that a lot of it was about the numbers. Number of people viewing my blog, the number of followers. Blogging was a chore just so that I could get more followers. More viewers. As I started to get into it a bit more and blog about things I actually cared about, the numbers became less relevant. I cared more about what I was writing than who was reading it. I started to get a few more comments on my posts, and this mattered to me a lot more than views, because it showed that people were actually reading entire posts and responding to them.

So when I received an email off of someone who read my blog this week, I felt so happy. It was really cool to be able to talk to someone directly about my writing and learn more about someone who already knows so much about me. I really hope that I will get to talk to her more often.

I also had something really lovely written about my song fitting in. It read:

"Very solid lyricism, your phrasing is deliberate without sacrificing syllable patterns or rhyme. I appreciate the positive themes to your music as well, it's not something easy to maintain without coming off like a bad disney special and you certainly are not that. Good job. :)

This is, again, something that made me really happy. To know that people are listening to my music and telling me what they like about it, it's really amazing. It really does make me so happy to read and to continue writing both my blog and my music.

I'd like to thank you all so much for your support. It means the world to me that you are reading this. It means so much to me that people are getting in touch. I would love to hear from more of you. If you want to get in touch with me, email me at

Stay Un-Typical

Ashleigh xxx

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Thursday, 5 November 2015

Tears may fall

I am a confident person. I always have been. I don't really have an issue with getting up in front of people and talking about anything. I don't mind getting up on stage and singing while playing my ukulele. I've always been a confident person.

However, I do struggle with my emotions. Not in the way that you are probably expecting, but everyone always knows how I'm feeling. Now this usually isn't an issues, but it is when I feel sad, because when I feel sad I cry. I cry a lot. I can be in my house or in school and if I get upset,  I will cry.

This, unfortunately, does make me feel quite negative about myself. It makes me feel weak. I would really like to have better emotional stability than a 2 year old on public transport, but I don't.

The feeling weak comes from the comments that follow.

Why can't you just stop

This is ridiculous

Ash, there's no need to get upset

To people on the outside, there may not be a reason to be upset. I may not even think I have a reason to be upset, but if I feel the need to cry, I can't stop it. My eyes fill up and tears begin to run down my face. This can make me feel even worse. I feel like I don't have the strength to stop it. I'm not strong enough. I feel weak, and I put myself in difficult positions.

Weakness is not a feeling I enjoy feeling, but I suppose it's honest. I'm crying for a reason and my emotion is out in the open. I guess that to an extent it's better that people know how I feel so I can talk about it. I hate it when people nag me and ask me what's wrong, but then it's good because it reminds me that I am surrounded by people who care. When someone asks me what wrong, I tend to dissolve into more tears and sobs, and the same thing happens when someone hugs me; that's why I don't like it when people ask.

Maybe crying isn't always a weakness; it can be a strength. I am opening up to the people around me and if they ask what's wrong, I can get it off of my chest and begin to feel better. I would personally rather that than be able to hold it back and cry by myself; because that doesn't solve anything.

Stay Un-typical

Ashleigh xxx

Monday, 2 November 2015

A Few Things About Job Hunting

Hi again, today I thought I would talk about looking for a jobs and how difficult it actually is.

I did have a job for a time, but as it was a summer job, I don't have a job anymore. Since I have started to look for another job I have learnt a few things.

Firstly, having a good CV is so important because of the amount of applications people are receiving, so make sure it is short but contains all of the key information that an employer may need to know.

I'm acting as if I know how to get a job, when in reality, I don't really have a clue.

Something else that I have learnt us that connections with people are vital. Some people I know have earned an interview by just talking to someone at the place they are applying for. If you know someone I do think it ups your chance of getting further in the process and possibly the end job.

In all honesty, I feel like this is more of a rant because I don't have a job, and I really do want a job. I would like to have that extra bit of independence and be able to spend my own money rather than sponge off of my parents.

How do you feel about jobs? Are you looking for one? Do you feel the frustration? Let me know in the comments.

Stay Un-typical

Ashleigh xxx

Sunday, 1 November 2015

14 Things I'm Fed Up of Hearing

As a teenager, I hear a lot of things from lots of different people that can be kind of frustrating, so here is a list of things that me, and possibly other teenagers, are fed up of hearing:

1) My you've grown

2) Ahhh young love

3) It can't be that stressful

4) What do you even need money for?

5) Just get a job

6)  You shouldn't spend so much time on social media

7) Your generation is terrible

8) Why are you napping again

9) You have lots anyway, what more do you need?

10) Why don't you go out?

11) Why are you out so much?

12) Why are you in?

13) Why are you in so much?

14) You don't need a job

The issues with lots of these phrases is that they contradict one another. It can get really frustrating that one person says one thing and then another says another and we don't really know where we are. We just need time to be confused. We need time to be young and stupidly in love. We need time to stay in and go out, but it's important that it's our choice and we should be left to make that choice ourselves.

Really sorry for the rant. Let me know how you feel about all of this in the comments.

Stay Un-typical

Ashleigh xxx