Not A Typical Teenager: December 2015

Wednesday, 30 December 2015

5 Top Tips for Being Happy
This post is about making yourself feel happier, and things that can help you feel happier. Within this post I will be giving you my top tips for making yourself happy.

1) Sleep, Sleep, Sleep
Getting the right amount of sleep can be really helpful in giving you a positive mood rather than the moods we all get in without enough sleep.

2) Be Honest
Being fake with people can be really draining, so make sure that your honest with people about how you feel about them. However, don't go shouting at everyone you dislike, just because you can. Talk to them in a calm and collected manner and build bridges between you.

3) Embrace Sadness
No one is happy all of the time, and so when you do feel negative you need to embrace it. Cry it out, and don't deprive yourself of the cookie dough.

4) Eat A More Balanced Diet
Salad can be really good to eat, and I hate this because it means that my mother was right. But eating a balanced diet doesn't mean to deprive yourself of the foods you love, just remember that everything is good for you in moderation.

5) Try And See The Silver Linings
If your in a bad situation, moping and complaining about it won't get you anywhere. Do something about it. If your stressing about something that you can fix, then fix it. If you can't then there's no point in stressing about it.

Thanks for reading

Stay Un-Typical

Ashleigh xxx

Wednesday, 23 December 2015

Late Night Thoughts

I am currently sat in bed writing this from my phone.

I don't need to look pretty. I don't need to do my hair or make up. I can just type my thoughts and that is enough.

I love this blog. It's like my own little corner of the Internet. My own little space where I can type my thoughts and pick my font and chose my background. I get to decide what you know about me and what you don't. I can talk about whatever I like without having to fear what people have to say.

This is why I blog more than I post videos on YouTube. I don't fear someone pulling my blog up in school in fear that they will find something embarrassing, because this is my little corner, where I get to write. I do fear someone pulling up my youtube, because I am aware that I am not the prettiest. I am aware that my videos aren't the best quality. And I do not need to be reminded of that.

With YouTube, I feel the need to edit a lot out of my videos in fear of looking imperfect. On my blog I can just write. I don't draft and edit for hours on end because I just want to write and for people to hear my thoughts. On my blog, I can have my imperfections comfortably and I can share them quite openly.

I love sharing my songs on youtube, and I think it probably works best if I do just that with it, share my songs; because I  would much rather sit back and type for 20 minutes and not care about being imperfect, than spend three hours on a YouTube video because I feel like I can't have any flaws.

Stay Un-typical

Ashleigh xxx

Sunday, 20 December 2015

All The Bright Places - A Kind Of Review


I read a book recently called all of the bright places, (which you can purchase here). This book is pretty sad, and I cried more than once because I can sort of relate to one of the characters. It’s a fantastic book, and I praise Jennifer Niven for blessing the world with this book, because even if it is sad; it’s real. Not real in the sense that it actually happened, but real in the sense that it can be related to. You can relate to Finch and his feeling of being ‘asleep’ and awake. You can relate to Violet and her feelings. She feels stuck and doesn’t know how to move forward.

I spoke to a friend who has suffered with mental health issues, and he said he related to the feeling of Asleep and Awake, and so it's definitely worth the read if you have struggled to talk to people about mental health issues and you want someone to relate to. It talks about the topic of mental health, and that’s something we need to talk about.
I’m not writing this post to talk about the book, (even though that’s all I’ve done so far!). I’m writing this post to talk about an idea within the book that I really like.

Basically, within the book, Finch, one of the main characters, has a wall. He calls this wall many things, but the idea is that anything he feels or thinks or any ideas that he has he can put on his wall with sticky notes. I think this is a fantastic idea, and I have bought a little pin board to fill with thoughts and ideas and memories and pictures and everything else that goes through my mind. A map of the mind.

The picture to the right shows you what I have done. I took his picture offline because my board isn't this full - I only started it on Sunday! But this is what I hope mine will eventually look like. I want it to be full.

I hope that this post has inspired you to read All The Bright Places or make your own pin board/wall. If you do decide to create a pin board/wall, make sure to email me or tweet me some pictures using the links at the bottom of this post so I can see how awesome they all look. (I'm generally a very nosy person). I hope to have pictures of mine up soon.
Thanks for reading. I hope to see some pictures soon !!

Stay Un-Typical

Ashleigh xxx

Sunday, 6 December 2015

Guilty About Feeling Happy

I did a post not so long about mental health and self harm. It was quite a long post, but have a read.

This post is sort of going to link into that post.

I'd heard of self harm at a young age, but I didn't really have a clue that it was something that people actually did and it was something that so many people did do. Until  probably the age of 14, I knew no one who did self harm. I saw the world through glasses made of sunshine and rainbows.

This all changed, and after I found out that one person self harmed, I learned about so many people who did. So many different stories and reasons and I was left with a whirlwind of questions that had yet to be answered. At about the age of 15 and a half, I knew a handful of people that I was quite close friends with who self harmed or had other issues with mental health.

I found myself still feeling happy. Still always excited and smiling. I cried when I was sad, regardless of where I was and who I was with, but my feelings were always honestly displayed, which is why I usually wore a smile. However, after a while, I sort of felt guilty about feeling happy. I sort of had an idea as to what was causing my friends to feel the way they did, but I still didn't/don't understand it.

For me, it felt like everyone around me was sad, it felt like everyone around me was bottling everything up, whereas I just show how I'm feeling. If I am feeling something, everyone knows I feel this way. How could I possibly justify my positivity when the people I love were hurting?

The came a point where I sort of just gave in to the fact that I'm not going to ever understand what they are going through, and all I could do was be there for them.

I also recently found out that my being happy and clueless was actually reasonably helpful. I think more than anything the fact that I was really oblivious to how people were feeling was good because I believed how people displayed their emotions was how they were feeling and I just acted as if everyone else was happy, and my random conversation seemed to distract people from how they were feeling; which can sometimes be the best thing.

Moral of the story is that being happy can actually help other people, so if your happy when everyone else feels down, just talking at people can sometimes be useful.

I hope you've enjoyed reading this post, let me know in the comments.

Stay Un-Typical

Ashleigh xxx

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