Not A Typical Teenager: 2016

Sunday, 11 December 2016

Stigma and Sex

In primary school, when you have a crush on someone, you become “boyfriend and girlfriend”. You can be together all of 2 minutes before you love each other and be broken up the next day because you were caught talking to someone the other person didn’t like. In primary school, we played kiss chase and ran around the yard and held people hostage so that their crush could kiss them, and we could run away without being caught. In primary school, we had fake marriages and pretended to be married and we had audiences with maids of honour and best men.

In secondary school, we played truth or dare, where it was a big deal to kiss someone on the cheek, and we all hoped we would have to kiss our crushes. In secondary school, I watched my friends all get boyfriends where we pretended it was more serious than primary school but in reality we were just pretending. In secondary school, I learned what necking was and how to pie someone off, how to text the person you like, and how not to appear clingy or interested.

Since primary school, we have all grown up, and the way our relationships work is very different. Relationships are more serious because we can see each other outside of school and we have the freedom to go to places with each other. The way people view our relationships is different now as well. We are love struck and innocent. We don’t know anything.

Today, I don’t want to talk about relationships;

I want to talk about sex. 

We first learn about sex in year 7, where we learn about reproduction in school and the teacher puts on a video about sex and you have to watch a woman give birth. After this, all of us felt a little awkward and I don’t think any boys or girls talked to each other until the next day when it had blown over. We were all shocked by what we had learned.

When I was in year 10, one of my friends claimed to have lost her virginity. She shared all of the details which I and my other friend didn’t really want to hear, but she was going to tell us whether we wanted to hear or not, and it made me uncomfortable, because we were girls; we shouldn't be talking about sex, should we? Now, a few of my friends have lost their virginity and I’ve learned things from this.

Some people feel pressured
When all of your friends have lost their virginity, it shouldn’t be a big deal, but when your friends won’t let you join in a conversation because you “won’t understand”, it can be easy to see how people can feel pressured into things.

Virginity is a social construct
You should value your own body because your body is special. It is up to you who touches your body and who doesn’t. If you want to have sex with someone, then you should be able to, but only if you want to, and you should not feel shamed about having sex with anyone. It is your decision. All virginity seems to do nowadays is shame girls who haven’t got it and shame boys who have, AND IT ISN’T A REAL THING.

Be safe
Above everything else, it’s really important that you stay safe and make sure that you aren’t putting yourself in danger.
  
Girls have been told that they should be terrified about having sex because it hurts. Girls are constantly being scared of doing it and if a girl does it, they can be shamed by their peers. Boys are being told they should be sleeping with people because it gives them “lad points”.

The biggest barrier is that people are afraid to talk about it. Sex is a subject that people avoid talking about. As a teenager, I have discovered that we can be quite open when talking about sex and relationships, and if you are curious, you should ask questions. Maybe not individually, but if there are a few of you talking about sex and relationships, and you have a question, ask it, and people will more than likely be happy to answer it.

What do you think of this? Is sex still a taboo subject to talk about? Should we be more open to talking about it? How do we remove the stigma around talking about it? Let me know in the comments.

If you have any questions or queries about this post, please feel free to comment or email. You can email anonymously at bracesandglasses128@gmail.com
Stay Un-Typical

Ashleigh xxx 

(PS, there's not photo because I didn't have a clue what to put!)

Sunday, 4 December 2016

I Am Scientific And I Am Arty

I am a scientific person. I have taken Maths, Further Maths and Physics for A level.
I am also a creative person. I write a blog, I write songs and I play numerous instruments.
So why is it that there is still the need for the distinction for the type of person you are? In school, we are separated into sciences and humanities. The people who have taken the sciences are taken more seriously. Talks are planned for them in regards to their future careers, applications are sent off earlier than those who took humanities to show that you are committed to the subject. If you are someone who is able minded in science and humanities, you are encouraged to do the sciences because these are more “valued”.
This is strange because the humanities are important to, but we are asked to identify as either good at science or the humanities; and the people who pick the humanities draw the short straw.
And then we have the people who are artistic or musical, who are disregarded even further. They are told that only a select few get to break into that field and that it is unlikely that you will be one of them. You will have to adapt what you love to suit the needs of the jobs available.
Science and maths also get more funding than any other subjects, while the arts and humanities are still funded, they don’t get as much.
Yes, we need more scientists and engineers to solve global warming and the energy crisis, but we also need geographers to help us deal with over population; historians, to make sure we don’t make the same mistakes as our ancestors, journalists to help document everything so that we all know what’s going on. We need all of the subjects.
I am a scientific person, but I am also a creative person. The one I identify as more changes depending on who I am with.
In school, I am a scientific person so that I will be taken seriously and helped with my applications.
On my blog, I am a creative person writing about my life and starting discussions.
In my youth club, I am creative person who writes their own songs and loves music.
According to my university application, I am a scientific person who has a passion for numbers
I am all of these people, I am creative and scientific and I love helping people; and I want to change the world.
Stay Un-Typical
Ashleigh xxx

Sunday, 27 November 2016

I Took All Of The Wrong A Levels

I am applying to uni and I have realized something recently which has thrown my plans off all together.
I want to be a writer.
I thoroughly enjoy maths and physics and I like numbers, but I love writing. I love writing blog posts and giving my opinion and interacting with people who have read my words. I love inspiring discussion and encouraging people. The thing is, I have taken all of the wrong subjects to do this. People who want writers will want people who have studied writing and who have taken English at A level and now I don’t know what to do.
I know that some of the people who know me won’t take me seriously because what I want to do has changed so often in the past. This is different because I have been writing openly for the past 2 and a half years and I still to it. This is something I still enjoy and I still want to do, I just never envisioned it as a career prospect. I didn’t think it was possible for me to write for a living and I didn’t want to fail. I still don’t want to fail, but it’s better that I fail at something I really want to do rather than something I kind of have an interest in.
My next obstacle is; where do I go next? Where do I look for opportunities? I honestly don’t have a clue. My main aim is to keep blogging and to keep working hard at writing on my blog and promoting it. I want to try and create more, and vary my writing a little more. I need to make goals and set aims with regards to post length and quality, taking my own photos and attracting more viewers. More than anything, I want to make sure that writing doesn’t turn into something I don’t enjoy anymore.
I am going to keep writing about the things I want to write about and I am going to finish my a levels and I’m going to apply for opportunities and internships and apprenticeships for anything and everything that interests me. I don’t care where they are. If, after I have to complete my a levels, I have to move to the middle of nowhere just for the opportunity to write, then I will, and I will have some amazing adventures. I am going to chase this, and hopefully I will get to reap the rewards.
My biggest fear is that I have realised this too late and that no one will take a second look at me because I haven’t taken anything relevant to writing for the last 2 years in school. This doesn’t mean I have stopped learning, but it means I have an English GCSE, but no a level. I suppose I have to cross the bridge when I get to it and see what happens.
Thank you for reading my post. Have any of you had this issue? Do you know what you want to do yet? What are your worries? Do you have any suggestions for me and where I should be looking? Let me know in the comments.
Stay Un-Typical
Ashleigh xxx

Thursday, 24 November 2016

My Parents Are My Friends

As I am currently applying for university (and apprenticeships and other things), me and my friends are talking about what life away from home will be like. This is an exciting feat for all of us; the thought of living independently is exciting and scary all at the same time. However, after talking to some of my friends, I’m realising more and more that some people aren’t moving out because the thought of living alone is exciting, but because the thought of living with their parents any longer than they have to is unbearable.

To me, this was a very foreign concept. There are people who don’t like living with their parents? Personally, I really enjoy living with my parents. I have grown up with two younger sisters, one is 5 and the other 11. I argue with my sisters a lot but I love them both lots and I wouldn’t trade them for the world. I want to stay around to watch them grow up, and the thought that I might not be is saddening.
My parents are some of my best friends in the world. I love spending time with my parents. The relationship that my parents have with each other is the relationship I aspire to have with my boyfriend. They go on so many adventures together and that’s what I want for my future. As I have gotten older, I've also got to go on adventures with them. Going out for food in Bristol the night before the open day in Bath, the three of us went to see Miley Cyrus on her Banerz tour and my dad took me to see U2. I don't want to go away because I like these adventures; they make me happy.
The prospect of moving out is exciting, but I don’t think I’ll ever be ready to leave my house. I want to stay around to watch my sisters grow up and see my family, and chances are that if I move out to go to uni or whatever, I’ll be moving away from my home town, and so it’s not just my parents I’m leaving behind, it’s practically all of my family.
Yet many of my friends have a very different view. A few have said that they want to go to uni just to get away from their house because it feels like a prison. They feel that being tied to a curfew and having to keep your own space tidy is inconvenient and annoying, and so they cannot wait to leave. For them, university is the quickest way for them to get out of their house.
I don’t know what my point is with this post really. I just think it is an interesting discussion to have. Is it better to want to move out? Is wanting to continue living with your parents for now a strange point of view? Does everyone want to move out at 18? Let me know your views in the comments.
Stay Un-Typical

Ashleigh xxx

Wednesday, 16 November 2016

Being A Student With A Job - Pros and Cons

Image result for computer and plannerI recently got a job, and I have been working in my current job now for a month and a half. I feel like I'm kind of getting the hang of it all now, and I know what to expect and what I'm doing and things. I thought this would be a good time to put a list together about what it's like to be a student and have a part time job.

Just for some background, at the moment, I'm contracted to work 12 hours, but am working about 20 a week. I work both after school and on weekends.

Pro: Money
A pretty obvious one, but it's really nice to have the money to do the things that I want to outside of school now, however.....

Con: I HAVE NO TIME
As I am working a lot of overtime at the moment, I don't really have much time to do anything except go to school and work. This keeps me busy but it can be quite exhausting. On the plus side, I have no time to spend my money.

Pro: Sleep
Following on from the last point, I am working so hard throughout the day, it means I am sleeping a lot more heavily in the night, and therefore am not so tired in the day which means I have the energy to do the work I need to.

Con: I have to be there
With all of the things I have always done after school, I have always worked my hardest to be there all of the time and have very rarely missed sessions of anything. However, the fat that I have to go to work when someone else asks me to makes me not want to go as much if that makes sense.

Pro: I have better emotional control
A little bit of a weird one, but I have always struggled with controlling my tears. If I am sad, everyone knows. Now that I have a job, it means that |I can't really break out into tear on the shop floor and I have to suppress them until a later time. This is really good for me and I'm so happy I'm finally learning how to do it after 17 years of not being able to.

Con: Being ill
If I'm in school and I'm ill, I can just take it easy and chill out a little. Because I have to be in work and it causes a major inconvenience if I am ill. Fortunately, I am not ill that often, but I was a couple of weeks ago and I really struggled both mentally and physically with the amount of energy I was using up on things other than getting better.

Pro: I have better time management
It has taken me a while, but I am finally finding a way to fit my hobbies around both school and work. I have to make sure I do all of my work in my frees in school as well as doing all my shifts, but I appreciate my free time a lot more now, and I use it to do more productive things like blog rather than scroll aimlessly through Facebook, which I have been all too guilty of in the past.

Con: Being spontaneous
It's a lot harder for me to do things without a significant amount of planning first because I'm usually scheduled in for a shift, although it does mean that when I do have a day off and I do something spontaneous, I cherish it a lot more.

Pro: I have new friends
Working means that I have friends who are all in different places in their lives and have all experienced different things and I'm learning new things off of all of them every day and I'm so happy that I get to do that.

I hear teachers telling me more than anything that I shouldn't really have a job and I should be focusing on my studies. I feel that this is partially true, but it's good to have the money on the side and if you commit your frees to working and not socialising, it is more than possible to do both. The only thing I would say is be careful not to kid yourself. It can be so easy to claim you've spent the hour revising when all you have done is play cards with your friends.

Overall, I would say that the pros definitely outweigh the cons; but what do you think? Do you think it's wise to study and have a part time job? Is 20 hours too many hours? Let me know in the comments below.

Stay Un-Typical

Ashleigh xxx

Sunday, 13 November 2016

Should We Be Taught Things That Matter?

This week, I got to go to the House Commons in London and debate in the chamber that all of the elected politicians debate in. I got to do this because I am my local authorities Member of Youth
Parliament. These local authorities re grouped into regions. I was part of Wales, which had 19 MYP's in attendance. It was such a weird experience. I just remember sitting in the chamber and thinking "This cant be real. I can't actually be sitting here!"
Because sitting on parliament benches is for politicians!

We were debating on 5 different topics:
1) Stopping cuts to the NHS
2) Transport
3) Vote at 16
4) Tacking racial and religious discrimination
5) Curriculum for life

One person is picked from each region by Mr. Speaker (John Bercow), to speak about each topic, and you can only stand up to speak once. I wanted to speak on curriculum for life, which was the final debate, and I waited patiently for my turn. Unfortunately, when it came to debate curriculum for life, someone else from my region was selected to give their contribution.

At first, I was really disheartened, because I had spent all day preparing my speech and waiting to give it, and then when the time came I couldn't speak. However, afterwards I remembered that I have this little corner on the internet which I am writing on all the time to tell my story. Maybe as many people won't read it, but that doesn't matter, because at least I will have had my say.

So without further ado, this is what my contribution would have been for the curriculum for life debate:

What is a tax code? I'm not really sure, but I can tell you how to find the hypotenuse of a triangle. What is an IUD? Who cares, I know that the mitochondria is the powerhouse of a cell. When we ask teachers why we are learning these things, they say that they are useful for specific career paths, which makes sense, but we need to learn things that will impact us outside our careers.

One of the reasons I have heard as a reason against a curriculum for life is that it puts strain on schools. In Wales, we have this subject that is called the Welsh Baccalaureate. This is a subject which is supposed to prepare us for university and the world of work. However, all of the work is spoon fed to us and it is so easy to forge your work that it isn't really doing anything to prepare us and just takes up 8 hours of my time a fortnight.

Another reason I hear against it is that teachers are not trained to teach such a curriculum. Well, in my area, they aren't really trained to teach the welsh bacc. We have teachers who teach history and geography and music teaching us what a Gantt chart is (how pointless) and they are qualified to do so because of , at most, a single training day.

The biggest reason I think that schools don't teach a curriculum for life is because you don't get a measurable outcome. They don't think improving PHSE or even introducing it increases pass rates. It doesn't matter if we leave school without these essential skills because no one is asking if we are. There are no exams in it in school because our exam starts as soon as we leave school. Unwanted pregnancy? No marks for you there. Take out a mortgage and keep on top of payments? five marks for you.

Schools aren't teaching it because we are not individuals in the big picture. We are parts of working mechanism that produces the next scientists and journalists. We are statistics, and nothing is more proof of it than this.

So there you have it. That would have been my speech in the House of Commons. What do you think? Do you disagree? Is a curriculum for life a good idea? Let me know in the comments.

Stay Un-Typical

Ashleigh xxx 

Sunday, 6 November 2016

Holding Up The Universe by Jennifer Niven - A Review

I read Jennifer Niven's book All The Bright Places a few months back, and I thoroughly enjoyed it (which can be seen in this post), and so when I heard that Jennifer Niven was releasing a new book, I knew that I had to read it.

This book follows two characters: a girl called Libby Strout who was once labelled America's Fattest Teen, and a boy called Jack Masselin, who suffers with an illness called prosopagnosia (the inability to recognize faces, even of your loved ones).

I really enjoyed this book for so many different reasons. I feel that in the young adult fiction world, I haven't really read many books with a main character who is overweight, and it was refreshing to read a book where this was the case. I think that it helped me realise that some people do live this life, and I think that lots of people will relate to Libby Stout.

I feel that Jack's character showed that even people who are well liked or "popular in school" can be suffering on the inside and can be facing their own struggles. Prosopagnosia was something I had never heard of before, and I found that this element of the book was very interesting because it's so unique and something I have never read about before.

I think what I liked most about this book was that it was such a refreshing take on a very overused concept. I think the fact that Libby is over weight is part of her strength. It has made her the character she is and it has definitely made her stronger. I don't think Jack expects her to be as strong as she is either, and I think that makes the book what it is too.

Overall, I would say that this book was a great read and I would recommend that you have a read (you can order the book from amazon here). I hope that you'll give it a read, and let me know what you think about the book and whether you'll read it in the omments, along with books you would recommend.

Stay Un-Typical

Ashleigh xxx


Wednesday, 12 October 2016

Does A Degree Make You Qualified?

I'm going to start this post by explaining what The Big Music Project is, because that is a pretty substantial part of this post, but I promise I will eventually give my opinion on this question towards the end of this post. The big music project is a project that is funded by the big lottery and is designed to encourage young people to pursue careers in music. There are hubs all over the UK which are doing different things. From planning to events, to getting to go to festivals, The Big Music Project is a really great project, and you can find out more about it here.

On Saturday, I attended a big event for big music, which is where the photo to the right of this piece was taken (the guy in the front is Fusion, who is a great personality you need to follow on twitter @iitsfusion). This event was for the big music champions who have been members of the project for more than a year. This day was fantastic and this day is what I want to talk about.

One the day, we were asked for one of the people on our project to speak o the panel, and, after some debating, (and a little bit of rock, paper, scissors), I was the one to go up and sit on the panel. On this panel, there was someone who had started his own djing academy, someone who attended this academy and is now djing in Ibiza in some of the biggest clubs in the world, someone who has been involved in a project to stop bullying in schools and has been on the radio and TV because of it, someone who started a festival after being made redundant. . .

...And Me

Now don't get me wrong, I know stuff. In fact, I know quite a bit of stuff. But not as much stuff as the people next to me. And I sat there thinking "why have they asked me to come and sit on this panel", and when I was asked questions and found out why I was there, they asked me if I learned how to control my nerves, and I talked about my journey as a performer, from a little 8 year old who had never picked up an instrument in my life, to a 17 year old who has been the leader of her local youth orchestra and is grade 5 piano and writes her own songs and plays ukulele. I talked about how I've busked on the streets of Cardiff just because I enjoy making music. I felt in my element just talking about what I loved to do.

Afterwards, I attended a workshop all about peer mentoring (which was also taken by the lovely Fusion), where I learned a very important lesson, which I am about to tell you.

If you love something, and you work hard at it and you learn new skills in it and develop your own knowledge of the subject through your own means, you can get to the point where you are pretty good at it. You can reach the point where you can teach other people how to do what you do. If the passion for your subject radiates off you, and you find yourself rambling about your subject, don't ever apologise for it, because your passion is showing, and no one is going to dislike that. You are probably drawing people to the subject.  People are probably interested in it because you are showing such passion. With practical subjects like music, art, sports, blogging, photography, etc. not having a qualification doesn't mean you aren't qualified, the fact that you have the skill and have worked at that skill can be enough.

And the more I though this lesson, the more I think it's true. Many musicians don't have degrees in music, and artists don't need degrees in art. A lot of the time the experience is more worthwhile. In most jobs nowadays, you need experience more than you need a degree.

So next time you feel like you aren't good enough, just remember that the practice is teaching you lots of what you need to know, and I'm sure if you look in the right places, you can learn all of what you need to know.

What do you think? Does the Big Music Project interest you? Does the day sound good?  Do we need qualifications to be qualified?

Stay Un-Typical

Ashleigh xxx


Sunday, 9 October 2016

Asking For It by Louise O'Neill - A Review

TW - This post contains conversation about rape and it's consequences
This post also contains some spoilers for the book, but you should still read it, because I want to know your thoughts

I saw this book quite recently in my local library (most of my books come from the library because I read a lot and it's just easier and cheaper this way), and I was immediately drawn to it. I had a very strong hunch about what it was about just by looking at the cover and reading the title. I had never read book about rape, and I thought it might be quite an uncomfortable read because of the subject matter. Never the less, I picked it up and read the book start to finish over 2 days.

This book revolves around a girl called Emma. She is an eighteen year old girl who lives in Ireland. She is popular and smart and incredibly pretty. I found Emma a very likable character, and I felt the way she was written makes the book a lot more powerful. Emma is portrayed as stereo typically 'slutty'. She sleeps with who she wants to, when she wants to, not caring what other people think of her.

Within the book, Emma is sexually assaulted and the books shows the after effect immediately and then a year later. It's quite interesting because I would say that Emma is raped before she is assaulted, but other people might not have the same view point. The book doesn't go into any detail about the assault because Emma doesn't remember. She sees photos on Facebook and finds out what happened there.

Louise shows in this book the denial that rape victims go though along with the difficulty they have returning to their everyday lives, and she does it fantastically. Is it an uncomfortable book to read? Yes, in places. But it's also gripping. How else would I have finished it in 2 days? This book doesn't just show the court case, but what happens when you know the people who assaulted you. How many people won't believe your story, how it can change the relationship you have with your parents and how it can impact their lives outside home just as much as the victims.

I thought this book was a fantastic read, and I really think that if you haven't read it, you should. You can order it off amazon here.

If you have anything to add to this conversation, let me know in the comments or on twitter.

Stay Un-Typical

Ashleigh xxx

Wednesday, 5 October 2016

I Have Friend Zoned My Boyfriend

I have mentioned my boyfriend on my blog multiple times before. I did a post about being with an introvert as an extrovert and there have been other posts where he has had a small shout out. This post is sort of about the relationship and connection we have.
When the media shows relationships and love, it suggests that love is this completely unknown emotion anyone who has never felt it before. This is kind of true, because no one tries to explain it. If anyone is ever asked what love is, the answer tends to be something along the lines of “you’ll know when it matters”, “I can’t really explain, I just knew what it was when I felt it” or “If you’ve never been in love, you won’t understand”. I think this is an incredibly lazy definition, because I feel that it is so simple to explain. For me, love is an intense friendship.
And so it should make a lot of sense when I say that my boyfriend is my best friend.
We were friends for a year and a half before we eventually got together, but for about a year of that, I considered him one of my best friends. He was one of the people I told everything to. He was the first person I wanted to tell all of my good news to, and the person whose shoulder I wanted to cry on when something bad happens.
I would say that I love my boyfriend, but because of all of the media that we are exposed to, when I first felt the feelings I am currently feeling, I didn’t think it was love. What I was feeling was just a very intense feeling of friendship and wanting to keep this human safe. It took a while before I figured out that this is what love feels like to me. It feels talking with your best friend all through the night until I have no breath left. It feels like wanting to go on adventures and experience lots of new things with your best friend. It feels like laughing until you cry, and having someone to ring at 3 in the morning when you feel sad.
For me, having a boyfriend means having a best friend. So when I say I have friend zoned my boyfriend, I have, because that's what a relationship is for me. An awesome friendship.
Stay Un-Typical

Ashleigh xxx

Thursday, 29 September 2016

20 Ways To Be Happier

Positivity quotes are all around us. People constantly telling us to "smile" and that "you can't be sad, you don't have any real issues". So I'm going to give you some tips as to how you can cheer yourself up in both the short term and the long term, because happy is both a state of mind and a series of lifestyle choices :

1) Get the right amount of sleep

2)Be healthy - Diets are short term, a change in lifestyle is easier to maintain

3) Have some 'me' time

4) Spend time with the people who make you happy

5) Rid yourself of toxic people and friendships

6) Keep your living area clean and tidy. Dedicate 10 minutes a day to tidying

7) Exercise

8) Stop procrastinating! You will feel so much better in the evening if you have done something productive with your day.

9) Try something new

10) Spend some time outside

11) Set yourself small goals. You'll feel great when you achieve them.

12) Start a project.

13) Spend less time on social media - if you find it easier to come off social media completely for a while, then you can do that too.

14) Live in the present

15) Allow yourself to feel your negative emotions - just don't let them consume you.

16) Buy yourself something you have wanted for a while. It doesn't have to be a big thing, it can be something like a CD.

17) Do something selfless e.g. buy some food for the food bank

18) Remember that you are the most important person in your life

19) Listen to more music that gives you shivers down your spine. This changes for each individual, and my list went up on Thursday. To read that, click here

20) Be yourself. Don't change for other people.

I hope this list helps a little, and if you have any further tips to add, feel free to leave them in the comments.

I made sure not to say "don't do things that make you unhappy", because sometimes that can be unavoidable, but just remember that the sooner you do them, the better.

Stay Un-Typical

Ashleigh xxx

Songs That Give Me Frissons

Frissons has the dictionary definition of "a sudden strong feeling of excitement or fear; a thrill." However, I have recently heard that this song can be applied to listening to music.

I don't know whether this is something everyone experiences, but I'm going to try my best to explain it. Musical frissons is when you listen to a song or piece of music and it gives you goose bumps or makes you hair stand on end. It can be because the beat is really good or the lyrics mean something to you, it doesn't matter how. I had experienced this lots but I didn't quite know how to describe it until I read about frissons.

The thing that fascinates me is that every person who experiences frissons experiences them to different songs, and that is amazing to me for some reason. So I thought today, I would share what songs I find give me frissons:

1) 17 Crimes - AFI

2) Blank Space - Taylor Swift

3) Every Time We Touch - Cascada

4) Cool For The Summer - Demi Lovato

5) Love Me Like You Do - Ellie Goulding

6) Freckles and Constellations - Dodie Clark (her YouTube is here)

7) Hands To Myself - Selena Gomez

8) Heart by Heart - Demi Lovato

9) When You Love Someone - James TW

10) Suddenly I See - KT Tunstall

11) Let Her Go - Passenger

12) Lie to Make Me Like You - Maisie Peters (look her up on YouTube here)

13) Misery Business - Paramore

14) Riptide - cover by Vitamin String Quartet

15) Stitches - Shawn Mendes

16) Sick of Losing Soulmates - Dodie Clark

17) Some You Win - Nina Nesbitt

18) Closer - The Chainsmokers

19) Thinking Out Loud - Ed Sheeran

20) Toothpaste Kisses - The Maccabees

21) City of Blinding Lights - U2

22) Waiting - Jamie Campbell Bower

23) The Hardest Part - Nina Nesbitt

Let me know in the comments if you listen to any of these songs and experience the same thing, and tell me what songs give you frissons.

Stay Un-Typical

Ashleigh xxx