Not A Typical Teenager: June 2016

Saturday, 25 June 2016

Goodbye 16

So I did a post like this last year which you can view here:

In less than an hour, I turn 17, and so I want to reflect on the things that have happened to me in the last year.

Since the aforementioned post, I have performed in a festival and started a new school. I have met some fantastic new friends and learned new things about old friends. I have become a stronger person and I have become a better person.

I attended my old school prom and my new school prom, both of which I attended with my boyfriend who I am so thankful for. I have been to see U2, and I went to Woolacombe with the best family ever.

I have sat my AS levels, applied for many a job as well as an apprenticeship. I have cried lots, and yet somehow smiled more.

This last year has been a great year; and I hope the next 365 days present even greater opportunities.

Stay Un-Typical

Ashleigh xxx

Wednesday, 22 June 2016

8 Things To Do When Exams Are Over

My exams finished last Friday. It was a rough road of 30 days, but I got through it, and I know most people's exams finish over the next couple of weeks. So the question now is, what do we do next. We suddenly have all of this free time on our hands which was once filled with revision. So what can you do, well here are some suggestions:

1) Keep going to school
Wait, so the place I've hated for the last few months I should go back to? well, yes! You can sit at home all day bored stiff or go into school and relish in your new found freedom with all of your friends

2) Do something you've missed
Start up a hobby that you've had to put on hold for your exams. Read a book, learn a language, play an instrument. Do something you've missed and enjoy it.

3) Be conscious of other people
You may have finished your exams, but be aware of when other people finish. It's hard to hear about how bored you are when people are still revising for 6 remaining exams.

4) Celebrate!
You've finished! You're free! Perhaps wait until everyone has finished and then all do something together, just try not to get too carried away.

5) Go to lessons (if you have exams next year)
If you go to a school, chances are you will start next years work. The great thing about lessons t this time of year is that they are very chilled out and the pressure of exams is so far away it may as well be non existent. You will be learning just because you want to learn.

6) Talk about the future with your friends
Maybe you're about to start A levels, maybe you finish a levels soon. Either way, you still have your whole life ahead of you and it's interesting to think about what's to come. Research some options; your eyes may be opened to some fantastic new opportunities.

7) Make plans for the summer
Okay, the summer holidays may still be a while away, but that doesn't mean you can't plan for them. Make sure that this summer is a summer to remember!

8) Have fun
Hard work doesn't start until September, so just kick back and chill out.

Would you add anything to this list? Let me know in the comments. If you want advice on what you can do this summer, come back next Wednesday for a summer bucket list! There I'll also be a new post up Saturday evening about turning 17 so feel free to come and view that.

Stay Un-Typical

Ashleigh xxx

Sunday, 12 June 2016

Teenage Relationships
The teenage years are fragile ones. A child transforms into an adult and every emotion is heightened (so I've been told). So today I'm going to talk about relationships among teenagers. About my experience, but also about social expectations of relationships.

I should probably start by sharing my experience. I have had one serious boyfriend who I am still with. We have been together for nearly 2 years now, and things are going great. We've had our ups and downs but we're still going strong. We were friends for a year and a half before we got together, and I had liked him and he had liked me but not at the same time before our relationship flourished. I would say that before we got together he was one of my bestfriends.

I think that one of the most untrue things portrayed in the media is what the feeling of  love is. In the media, love is portrayed as this feeling that you cannot comprehend unless you've experienced it and it is totally and utterly impossible to explain to anyone who hasn't felt it. I disagree completely, and it made me question my own feelings when I got together with my boyfriend. For me, love was when I had a bestfriend who I wanted to share lots of experiences with (like you do a best friend), but also someone you want to kiss (which isn't something you want with a platonic relationship really). Other people may disagree, but this is just my opinion.

Another thing I would say the media suggests, is that people are either in a relationship, talking to someone that, in a tv show, they will inevitably end up with, or are happily single. This is so far  from the truth. Disney channel have got this wrong, because it's so much more complicated than that (and not every teenager is straight, but another time).

Also, it is often portrayed that if there is competition for someone  romantically, that the one person will be lovely and the other will be a horrible person and no two friends ever like the same person. This isn't true, because sometimes, friends can like the same person and it can be really difficult to overcome these types of things within a friendship.

People are also actively looking or relationships, people want a connection with someone, and that's  totally fine too, but we need to make sure that people who want connections aren't portrayed as needy in the media, because that translates to peoples attitudes and judgements by people.

Then there's the issue of being the last one to lose 'it'. Fortunately, among my friends this isn't an issue, becuase none of us really care. However, I know one of my friends feels under pressure to lose 'it' because all her friends have and it's a topic of conversation among all of her friends and she gets told it's not a big deal, but it is if it hasn't happened to you yet. Young people shouldn't feel pressured into doing things in order to fit in, it should be culturally accepted that different people are ready at different times, and losing your virginity doesn't make you a grown up or more mature at all, it doesn't influence who you are so why do we really care about it?

Thanks for reading. This has been kind of a long post but never mind. Do you think my definition of love is correct? Would you add anything to my list of differences between the media and real life? Let me know in the comments.

Stay Un-Typical

Ashleigh xxx

Sunday, 5 June 2016

Trying To Be Positive

"Why do I even bother?"

I am usually a very positive person, and I am usually very motivated. I enjoy blogging and I enjoy vlogging, but now and again I get a wave of "Ash, what are you doing? Why are you doing all of this?" I think we can all admit we've been there, sdstaring at a blank page or a freshly finished blog post or song or piece of art and just thinking "Why did I bother?"

Yesterday I posted a cover of Stitches on my YouTube (you can view here), and when I put it up I was really proud of it. It took me ages to film and I really love the song, but the quality isn't there equipment wise. I used my phone because my camera was playing up and the back up melodies don't sound as good as I wanted and I was just really gutted because I tried so hard and what I ended up with wasn't what I wanted.

It just made me think "Why do I even try". And it can be difficult to boost yourself after working hard and not thinking the final product is up to scratch. When you invest yourself into something, you want it to be awesome.

If this is you now, I have something to remind you. The reason you started blogging or drawing or singing was because you enjoyed it. You started because it made you feel great to be good at something and have a creative outlet and it made you happy. One bad piece doesn't end you; and others may not think it's bad. Others might think it's great. Just because it isn't your best work doesn't mean it's not good; it just means that next time you can build on it and improve your skill. Don't let one bad thing make you think that you aren't good. Draw something new, learn a new piece, write something new, try something different; you can do it. Just don't give up. The strongest people can pick themselves when they fall down.

If you do watch the video, I am so sorry for hurting your ears, but I'll have a new music video up next week and I will certainly be comparing the two for quality. I refuse to give up because of one mishap and you shouldn't either.

Let me know in the comments of a time where you fell down on your aspiration and how you picked yourself up, or ven how you plan to pick yourself up.

Stay Un-Typical

Ashleigh xxx

Thursday, 2 June 2016

My Top 50 songs

I love music, (like you didn't know already), and so I thought I would do a post on what music I'm listening to at the minute. These are my top 50 songs at the moment:

  1. Cool for the summer - Demi Lovato
  2. Hands to myself - Selena Gomez
  3. Stitches - Shawn Mendes
  4. Adventure of a lifetime - Coldplay
  5. Beating heart - Ellie Goulding
  6. Honey, I'm good - Andy Grammar
  7. Remember December - Demi Lovato
  8. Suddenly I see - KT Tunstall
  9. Riptide - Vitamin String Quartet cover
  10. Misery Business - Paramore
  11. Sum me up - Bry 
  12. This is War - 30 Seconds to Mars
  13. Every breaking wave - U2
  14. Last night (Beer fear) - Lucy Spraggan
  15. Celloverse - 2Cellos
  16. Viva la vida - Coldplay
  17. We'll be back for more - Nina Nesbitt
  18. Lighthouse - Lucy Spraggan
  19. Time bomb - All Time Low
  20. Toothpaste Kisses - The Maccabees
  21. Crazy kids - Ke$ha
  22. Love song - Sara Bareilles
  23. Bitchin' Summer - Avril Lavigne
  24. Five colours in her hair - Mcfly
  25. Glad you came - We Came as Romans coverr
  26. Love me like you do - Ellie Goulding
  27. Bad Girls Club - Falling in Reverse
  28. Astronauts - Bry
  29. Bonfire heart - James Blunt
  30. Not what your dad wants to know - Nina Nesbitt
  31. Waiting - Jamie Campbell Bower
  32. You don't know me - Elizabeth Gillies
  33. If I didn't know better - Clare Bowen and Sam Palladio
  34. Pompeii - Bastille
  35. 17 - Avril Lavigne
  36. Problem - Set It Off cover
  37. Perfect two - Perfect two
  38. Party in the USA - Miley Cyrus
  39. Playing God - Paramore
  40. Uptown Funk - Bruno Mars
  41. Lighthouse - Lucy Spraggan
  42. Mr Brightside - The Killers
  43. Day like this - Elbow
  44. How to save a life - The Fray
  45. Count on me - Bruno Mars
  46. I'm yours - Jason Mraz
  47. Full circle - Miley Cyrus
  48. If it means a lot to  you - A Day To Remember
  49. City of blinding lights - U2
  50. Hey There Delilah - Plain White T's
Go ahead, bash my music taste in the comments. Tell me what songs aren't any good, or tell me which songs you like or have impacted you in the comments.

Stay Un Typical

Ashleigh xxx