Tuesday, 26 July 2016
My current boyfriend and I have been together for nearly 2 years. I am an extrovert and he is an introvert. We work together really well, and so I'm sort of going to talk about the dynamics in our relationship and how our introvertedness/extrovertedness impacts this.
Just going to start by saying I shall not be revealing his name or any social media, (not that any of you would care anyway, just thought I would let you know).
Our relationship started because he plucked up the courage to kiss me for all of a tenth of a second. This quiet lovely human managed to pluck up the confidence to do that. He then proceeded to ask me out. I was quite surprised at all this, yet I said yes.
Whenever we go out for food (always to Harvester, Mmmmm!)I'm always asked to do the talking at the front desk. He can order his own meal and since we've been together, he does now go himself. I don't know whether it's confidence or comfort or whether he generally feels less nervous around me now. Either way, he can do it now.
It seems to just work. The fact that one of us is extroverted and the other is introverted works quite nicely. It works the same way as how in a relationship, you tend to have a dreamer and a realist. This works well because it allows the dreamer to set realistic goals and the realist to do more than the things they know they can do. The same principle applies here. The extrovert helps the introvert attend more things and keeps them company while they do so, while the introvert keeps the extrovert from doing stupid things, and can also introduce them to the wonders of a night in, and how nice being alone and learning how to love your own company can be.
I think the most valuable thing I've learnt from being with an introvert is that other people need their own space and not everyone likes to be talking to someone 24/7 like I do. Some people have less social interactions but value them more; and that can be a very beautiful thing indeed.
What do you think? Do an extrovert and introvert balance eachother out? What are the important lessons they can learn from each other? Let me know in the comments.
Sunday, 24 July 2016
So what is this post really about. So far I've probably only told you things you already know. Well, I just want to talk about my personal experience and the things I think about being an extrovert. This is my personal opinion, and if you agree or disagree, feel free to comment.
1) It makes life easier
Like I've already said; we live in an extroverted world. Surely being an extrovert is going to make things easier to navigate.
2) People open up to me
I find that people tend to come to me for advice (or at least my close friends do!). This may be just because people feel they can, but I feel it's more likely because I share so much about myself and I don't tend to hide much from other people
3) I'm an open book
This links to the last point, but if I'm feeling something, everybody knows that's how I'm feeling. Partially because, most of the time, I want everyone to know how I'm feeling, and partially because I can't hide how I'm feeling. Even if I need to cry, unfortunately the tears are streaming from my eyes before I can do anything to fight them.
4) I have a great ability for talking to strangers
I will go up to random people just to tell them I like their hair or ask where they got their t shirt from because I like it and I want one. I think this is a good thing because I can by a cute ne t shirt and people know how awesome they look that day and start smiling. Small talk doesn't really phase me at all.
5) My filter kicks in a little late
I will start a sentence and realise I shouldn't really be saying this about halfway through the sentence. This is an issue, because people sometimes already know what's coming next. It hasn't been a huge issue for me, it usually just means I throw some serious shade.
6) I'm practically always talking
I like to talk. I like to find out new things about new people and I like to know more. I ask lots of questions. I really enjoy making conversation with people. Learning about other people and hearing them talk about something they love and watching them get really animated makes me happy.
What do you think of my little list. DO you relate to any of these. Do you dispute that some of these are extroverted traits? Let me know in the comments.
Wednesday, 20 July 2016
We all have hobbies. We all like to do different things in our spare time and we can pick up new hobbies from the people we are close to, as well as people we aren't so close to. Some hobbies are forced upon us, and others we choose to do.
Sometimes, friends can pick up on our hobbies, and that CAN be a great thing, but I'm going to highlight the things that good and bad within a situation like this, from the perspective of the person who has picked up this new hobby, and the person who has had this hobby longer.
The original hobbiest
You have someone to share new ideas with and talk to about your hobby with. It means you can get alternative views and bounce your ideas off someone. This is a great time for you to share your knowledge and help out someone new, as well as allow you to go over the basics. Just remember that it doesn't matter what they do, and that it's still your hobby too, so you don't just have to help them, you can carry on doing your own thing. You don't have to share all of your ideas with them, you can still be independent. It's also great to get a beginners look on things. Sometimes it can put things in perspective.
The new hobbiest
Congratulations! You have found a new skill to pick up, and you have someone to help you out along the way at the beginning. This is great because you can have someone tell you the apps/supplies/techniques they find best for their specific hobby. However, remember to be your own person. You don't have to do everything the other person does. That's not how it works. Take it in your own direction. Don't do things the other person has said they want to do or has done just to spite or keep up with them. It's not a competition and if you enjoy it then surely that is all that matters.
Hobbies are a great thing, just make sure that you are your own person and never do anything you feel forced to do. If your parents are forcing you to have piano lessons even if you hate piano, ask them to sign you up for something else like are classes, guitar lessons, or even how to code a video game. Everyone is great at something, and if you haven't found what that is for you, I'm sure you will.
Have you found a hobby you enjoy? Have you ever picked up a hobby off of a friend or vice versa? Did any conflicts arise because of this? Let me know in the comments
Sunday, 17 July 2016
A couple years ago, I was diagnosed with a from of psoriasis called guttate psoriasis. This is a very rare form of psoriasis, as it is estimated approximately a third of the population suffer with eczema or psoriasis, and if you treat this third as 100%, then 2% suffer with the type of psoriasis that I do.
It appears as kind of red spots. I would take a photo, but we'll get to why I can't really do that in a moment. When I was first diagnosed, I had it all over my chest, stomach, arms and back. I have tried all sorts of things. I was given this kind of steroid cream from the doctors which almost every sufferer (not that I suffer much!) is given, but you can only use this once or twice a day. I tried moisturizer which helped but didn't clear it up completely, and varied my body wash to try and clear it up. It got to a level I was okay with and I stopped trying to clear it up and tried to keep it at a level I was happy with.
So why am I telling you all of this? It's not something I've ever shared on my blog before, so why am I sharing it now? Well, at Christmas, one of my friends bought me a scrub from lush called the rub rub rub scrub. I had seen this in lush a couple months before and I really wanted some because it smelled so nice, so when I opened my secret Santa present to discover that I had been bought some, I was thrilled! I was bought a pot of it at Christmas (you can buy a pot of liquid scrub or a block).
I took it home and tried it a few times and it was good, it felt really nice on my skin and I was pretty happy. I was using it probably once a week.
Then, my house ran out of body wash and for a few days I was using just my scrub every time I showered. And it did great things. Before I used this I had managed to limit it to my arms chest and back, but it practically cleared it all! I was shocked by how well it cleared up my skin. If I had known how well it was going to clear up my skin, I would have taken photos to show it.
I've recently bought the scrub bar as well as a moisturizing bar to try. This post is not sponsored by lush, and I never thought I would be posting about anything beauty, but I think this is important, because if you suffer with something skin related, it can hit your confidence and nobody wants that, so I thought I'd tell you about this just in case you have had a similar struggle to me, and perhaps this is something you could try.
just in case your wondering how I'm using these, I wash my body with body wash, then I rub the scrub over the places my psoriasis is worst, and I wash it off, then I use the moisturising bar. I must admit that I find the bar scrub a little better than the pot because it's a lot sturdier and I find I can scrub my skin more thoroughly with it. Plus, I feel there is less waste with the scrub, and I think it lasts longer.
Have you used this scrub? Did you love it as much as me? Do you think you'll use it after reading the comments? Let me know in the comments.
Wednesday, 13 July 2016
I hadn't really heard of Laura Bates before stumbling across this competition, and so I didn't really know what to expect from this book. The stereotypes of your average feminist these days aren't the best things in the world, and so I thought that maybe it was going to be a bit less equal rights and a bit more "let's kill all men"! Thankfully this was not the case.
There are a total of 12 chapters in this book, covering a wide variety of different subjects that impact young girls. From social media, to loving your body, from sexuality to the sexualisation of girls in today's society. This book is a fantastic piece of literature and if you haven't read it you 100% definitely should.
The thing about this book is that it's really honest while still maintaining a great sense of humor. It contains some really great lines, which I'm not going to reveal because I don't want to ruin the book. I was being told about things that had always been right in front of my nose, while pointing out how stupid it is that we just . . . go along with them. Why do we do that? Why aren't we standing up to these stereotypes? These are all of the things I'm now questioning since reading this book.
This book isn't just for girls. It talks about the stereotypes and societal structures that effect boys too; and I think that's what makes this book so great and such a good read. It makes sure to address the stereotype that all feminism is about is fighting for women to run the world. That is not the case, and this book contains a whole chapter about how that is not the case!
Girl Up also contains lots of tweets that Laura has received about the experiences girls have had on the street as well as a letter from someone who asked to be included in the book about her own experiences with sexuality and sexual abuse.
If you want to read this book, I must warn you, it contains words like "vagina" and "clitoris" and talks about masturbation and sex, which aren't really things we discuss on a day to day basis and, as discussed in the book, people don't really seem comfortable to talk about. However, please don't let this put you off. It is so important that young girls and young boys know about their own anatomy and know that thinking about these things is okay; it's not like we are taught about all of this stuff in school.
Laura talks about alternative titles for this book, and I think I have one but I don't think it would have gone down as well as girl up: Things that we need to talk about as a society and let people know it's okay to talk about. See, it's just not quite as catchy.
Anyway, if you're interested in buying this book, click here, and let me know if you do buy it, or if this book is now something you would be interested in, in the comments.
Sunday, 10 July 2016
I think it's important to note hear that me, nor my parents or youngest sister have a very strong sweet tooth. However, my other younger sister has a very sweet tooth and would eat sweets all day if she could.
So, my parents and middle sister shared two waffles between them. The one waffle was a chocolate brownie waffle (top), and the other was a caramel shortcake waffle (bottom). The waffles can be seen on the right (that's right, I took my own pictures)!
Between the 3 of them I think they finished one and a half of the waffles, which isn't bad. My sister has a stronger sweet tooth, so I think she ate more than both my parents combined. The waffles were really good but for us there was a lot of them. I think if we were to go again we wouldn't eat before because the portions were just so big. The caramel waffle was £5.95 and the brownie waffle was £6.95. The price kind of makes sense when you see how large the portion sizes are.
I personally wasn't really fancying a waffle or a crepe on this particular day, but I do enjoy a cheeky milkshake regardless of how I'm feeling; so I ordered an after eight milkshake which was absolutely stunning. I would definitely have one again, but I probably would have to share one this time as the portion size was aa little big for me. On the right is a picture with a very happy Ashleigh and a huge milkshake! It was really nice and creamy and thick. I could tell they had used quite a bit of after eight inside it because the minty taste was strong. I only managed to gt about halfway through it though, which isn't so bad, but I would have liked a smaller portion. The milkshake cost £3.95 and it was a regular milkshake; which is the smallest size they do!
Overall, I really enjoyed the visit to Kaspa's but here are the main things I would like to see the next time I go there, and also the tings I liked the most:
- The display of the deserts was amazing. I wish I'd taken a photo but it looked so cool to see all of these different coloured ice creams and deserts
- An option to have a smaller size desert so there isn't as much waste.
- There are so many good desserts on the menu that I would like to try; so maybe a taster plate where you can try a few deserts on one plate. Like maybe 1 quarter of 4 different waffles? I just think it would be cool to try smaller portions of more deserts.
Friday, 8 July 2016
9) Help someone new
11) Read 6 books
12) Take my boyfriend to some posh, fancy restaurant
14) Go to a fair
16) Have a picnic
17) Have a water fight
21) Patch things up with an old friend
22) Reach 60 subs (whoa. such optimism)
23) Go vegan for a week
27) Dye my hair blue
28) Have a movie day
30) Cook a meal (yes, that's probably gonna be a boyfriend thing again, leave me alone)
31) Do a blog series
A bit short, but I might add stuff as I go along, and as I do things, I will be crossing them out so they are still readable, but you can tell they have been achieved.
Also, I'm looking to do a mental health series this summer, and if you want to be involved, blogger or not, I want to here from you, so click the social media tab, and get in touch to be featured.